ONCE, work was a major source of friendships. We took our families to company picnics and invited our colleagues over for dinner. Now, work is a more transactional place. We go to the office to be efficient, not to form bonds. We have plenty of productive conversations but fewer meaningful relationships.
I read this article in the New York Times and found it a bit sad. I'm not saying that everyone has to be your BFF at the office, but spending so much time just being civil is soul sucking.
We're all humans and in this together. How much risk is there to being vulnerable and sharing authentically? As a side benefit, caring about your fellow co-workers will probably make work go smoother as well.
Here's a way to start...
Whether we bond at work is a personal decision, but it may involve less effort and vulnerability than we realize. Jane E. Dutton, a professor at the University of Michigan, finds that a high-quality connection doesn’t require “a deep or intimate relationship.” A single interaction marked by respect, trust and mutual engagement is enough to generate energy for both parties. However small they appear, those moments of connection can transform a transaction into a relationship.